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It’s okay to be selfish by kodoninja 2 months ago | SelfImprovement |  (# Self-Improvement #selfish #friends)
000 It’s okay to be selfish
Is being selfish all that bad? I say yes and no. If you have a genuine goal and focus in your life. I say fuck it! Be selfish to your heart contends. Why you may ask? Because you're focused. You simply have no time for BS, doing favors for others who may or may not value your time.Time is so finite, it comes and goes before you know it. One moment you're in high school or college with a dream. A few sidetracks later you're in your 30’s or 40’s scrambling to get your goals and dreams accomplished. This is how a midlife crisis happens. Time has passed trying to find yourself, having fun with friends. Working a job you mildly enjoy, not giving it your all, fearing failure, fearing not being good enough, helping others for whatever reason, and so on. Life has passed you by. But it's not too late, to separate yourself, focus and be selfish.It’s your life you live it how you want when you want. I get that. Who am I to tell you what you should do with your life. But meet me halfway. Ask yourself do or did you ever have goals and dreams? Now ask yourself are you accomplishing these goals and dreams? Are you where you want to be in life?Now if you're not working towards these goals. What are you doing? What happened? I bet during your journey throughout life you may have been a little more selfless than you needed to be. Either that or procrastination has a big part of this. For me, it’s both of these. Even though I have many things accomplished in my life. I still feel like I haven’t accomplished anything yet.If only I was a little more selfish throughout my journey. I’d be much closer to where I want to be. I’d be that glorified software engineer. Decorated with 4+ degrees and 20+ certifications and certificates. Id also has mountains of apps, websites, and software for download. Online courses, books, a thriving business, and YouTube. If only I’d just said no or maybe refer them to someone that has the time to help them. Throughout my life, I’ve helped people and have gotten nothing in return. I even take the time to help those that knowingly hate me and very publicly tried to stab me in the back.I’m sure there are many of you out there that has done the same thing. Honestly, it feels right for me to help others but not like this. As I said above time is finite. So I’ll just be helping people indirectly from here on out. I’m making myself a ghost, impossible to get a hold of. If they do get a hold of me I simply say no, or I can’t with no explanation.I’ll have many things online including this platform that can help them. Wanna learn to trade or improve your coding, try kodotrading. Want to get fit kodofitness; want to overall improve yourself kodoninja and so on. Everything will be carefully researched planned, written, and filmed. My time is valuable. I’ll charge a premium for my services outside my various free and paid materials. Because in actuality I’d rather be improving and creating content that can help countless people at one time. That's mutualism, the best thing for everyone.I’m sure if you were a little more selfish in life you would have that dream job by now. Or in general, you would at least know you put everything into your goals and got the most out of what you wanted to do. If you stop to take care of everyone's needs before yours; you’ll always fall short of who you are and who you want to be. It’s never too late to isolate yourself, leave those needy “friends”, family and others behind that are using you. Forget everything and everyone else and focus on who you're meant to be.
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Benefits of being single by kodoninja 2 years ago | dating |  (#single #sex #love #dating #fling #self-improvement #time)
000 Benefits of being single
Let me start by saying; this will be from a man's point of view. However, the ladies can learn from this as well. Whatever your into trust me it works. Here are 5 simple reasons why being single can be quite beneficial. READ TO THE END! 1. Time: Time is the greatest gift from mankind more so than Money, Sex, & Fame. And you shouldn't be wasting any of it. Our time here on earth is very short; tomorrow’s not promised to us, YOLO. So now we have more time to make shit happen. Get fit, read, focus on yourself, spend time with your friends, casually date, explore the planet, go camping, write a book, fuck a friend lol, go clubbing, learn new skills, get an online degree, build a computer… You name it but just don’t waste it. Let’s be honest no one needs anyone they’re billions of girls on this rock no one is special when it's all simplified. Manage your time a lot more wisely now that your single, I’m confident you’ll find another. 2. Productivity: This has turned out to be my favorite from the 5 other than #5. It’s as simple as it reads. You have way more time now; so be productive. If you had plans to build an app, well here's your chance. Build an empire, well nothing’s stopping you. Research, plan, develop, make money, file, etc. Just do it. Not distracted with your girl anymore no excuse. You can allocate your time wisely to get a wide variety of things done. Wanna learn trading, editing, or even how to do a backflip. Just plan it right and do it.   3. Growth: Whether it was mutual, a rough breakup, divorce, a break or maybe you're an Incel. You can take this time to reflect and grow. Make your self better inside and out. Read a few improvement books, watch healthy You-Tube (redpil), study human nature, and learn. Get even hotter women by building up your charterer, importance & body. Get on your grind no women should ever come before your dreams and goals. They'll always be #1. You wanna be the tech mogul, that bodybuilder, that whatever. It is #1. You can’t grow while your chasing someone, you can’t evolve by settling for what you have and what you can get. Always think bigger and better. Then go for it truly become the greatest evolution of yourself. The right one will come to you don’t go looking for her. 4. Freedom: Congratulations your single and free. No nagging girl complaining about nothing, no dates to remember, no trying to prove to her or anyone... Anything can be done just as you intended it to be without the input of anyone incredibly stuck to you. Your FREE so enjoy it.  5. More sex: At this point, you have the time. You’ve developed a mission to be more productive. Those goals you held off because of her now you're getting it done. You can grow, learn new things, talents, hit the gym get an 8 pack, your free to do whatever. And you're not attached. Studies show that single status is the ultimate gateway to more sex. Just ask any frequent club or party hopper. Makes sense, less or no feelings, you can date on rotation, hookup, on to the next… All sounds good; sex lasts roughly last a few hours, and you can quickly get back to your goals. But..., be smart this can do way more harm than good if done carelessly. Hoping from person to person, club to club, work, friends, new meets, acquaintances... This all takes a lot of time; remember "time", your goals, get in that millionaire mindset. Don't waste your time getting laid; be more productive to improve and grow on every level. For me, I like to focus 95% of my time on strictly me, my goals, and my dreams. I like to constantly improve myself. If you're going to have way more sex than I recommend, cough, hear me out… Find someone in tune, and in “love” with you; or at least likes & respects you. Someone you can casually date. Maybe throw in a few relationship benefits. But don’t let it turn into a relationship at least not yet. Make sure she’s focused on her own goals, getting her own money, building herself up as well. Having the same 80% - 95% mentality as you do. You guys just do the ? 5% ? together, SEX, hookups, light dating hanging out, etc. Then back to the millionaire habit grind. That’s right cough… My solution to being the best singe version of yourself is to do it in a “casual dating relationship”  lol. I hope this makes sense to everyone.
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Never date a girl posting provocative selfies by kodoninja 1 year ago | Living |  (#dating #girls #time)
000 Never date a girl posting provocative selfies
All-day she's posting on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and just about any other hoe enabled platform. And no shes not posting anything of value. Just empty promiscuous bullshit with her wearing “sexy” clothes and a dumb-ass pose. So I’ll break this down to 5 simple reasons why you should never touch or entertain these types. This only goes for 90% of the social media population so if the shoe fits I apologize in advance. Trigger warning: There are some women out there who are talented, with multiple things going on for themselves; Intelligent, independent, hard-working, and successful. This isn’t for the go-getter, the strong morals and goal-oriented women. As for the rest of you know who you are and you fit the description. 1. They aren’t special Seriously they aren’t special. There are over3.6 Billion women on the planet some of which have talent, unique and provide value to themselves and society. Respect for the real women that still exist today. Real women aren’t on Instagram all day posting photos of themselves. Most of the girls today believe there special from Millions of others on FB, IG, SC, etc. that all do the same thing. They’re all fake, dumb, and trying to be the same Insta-hoe. If every girl is posing with the same empty bullshit written below how can they be special. Every girl is going for the same look and some do it better. Not every girl is a Kardashian, and the fakes can be seen a mile away. Every girl these days is trying to be the next Kardashian. These are the role models of today. Representing the fake culture, the heavily altered fake representation of how girls should look, act, and display themselves today. Competing for the look, social proof, most likes, biggest ass, most dramatic, smallest waist, body counts, etc. Girls can be working at McDonald's making a few bucks an hour and with the power of the bathroom mirror and their cell phone, they can now be sexy. It’s all a joke. They go to so much trouble and time trying to be someone else. Trying to be the same basic bit#* that every guy around town knows. The time that can be spent on improving themselves and their goals. They choose not to, they live for the attention like everyone else. They are to never be trusted. 2. Maybelline, Filters, and Photoshop Bruh! it ain’t real, these girls have to spend hours a day painting on their faces just to be accepted. The most average and basic girl today doesn’t need to be attractive. They just need the magical abilities of Maybelline and filters. These girls are afraid to show their actual face in public that’s why they paint one on. There are girls I’ve dated and to this day I’ve never seen how they look like. Gallons of makeup an average body and the help of some clothes suddenly every girl today thinks they're the most beautiful creature that’s ever existed. Add in some filters and a few touch-ups and suddenly they think they're a supermodel. They get a lot of likes, compliments, and comments and now they believe they're valued. They honestly believe that they’re hot shit. Forgetting the fact that they had to paint their face, filter and photoshop themselves for the attention. It’s hysterical to know that girls out today are an illusion. Most are average at best, and some aren’t even remotely in shape. Good lighting, makeup, a decent pose, and a filter and now they can fool the world that there attractive. The guys only like the photo because they like the fake attractive girl that was created not you. 3. Insecure & miserable They need attention, they need to feel like they're beautiful when deep down inside they know they aren’t. Most if not all the women are very attractive but they still need to hear it 24/7 from guys the wouldn’t give a chance to. If they stop getting the attention; they go through withdrawal and slowly die. They love the feeling of free attention from guys. Even knowing that the guys are just as much of a loser as they are. These girls are riddled with issues and false superiority complexes. Online they may look like they have it together, in person as you speak to them to sound as if they're doing ok. But deep down inside they are a disaster barely held together. Their Insecurities run rampant day to day always coming up with new poses and things to say with there attention-seeking pics. Some girls take it to the extreme getting surgery, implants and many other body modification methods for more attention. Not all can afford to do this but I bet if they had the money they’d jump at the opportunity to get it done. Twitch & YouTube are overrun with many nontalented girls gaming horribly. Their tits are out for attention speaking about nothing. Soaking up all the attention and comments they can get. Today has never been so easy for anyone to get immediate gratification from anyone anywhere anytime. No matter how your feeling you can whip out your phone post something provocative receiving all the attention you need. The problem is it’s never enough attention or DM’s for anyone. Girls get high off of it, they live to be felt great from others. But it doesn’t last very long, then they're back to feeling unwanted and depressed. 4. She’s a hoe If she’s always posting photos of herself there’s something off. Not including if she ever posts a club photo, house party, alcohol, etc. This is a major red flag. I’ll immediately cut someone off if I get the impression that this person may be a hoe. If she needs to post dozens of photos of herself a week. If she needs the likes and comments from others to boost her self-esteem; that’s my cue to cut her off. If I’m already following and are “friends” with this person I stop communicating with the person. For me, I take the time to remove any trace I ever communicated with them. Any likes, comments, messages all gone all deleted. I’d never delete or block the person, I’ll just wait for that person or manipulate them to delete me. I’d suggest you’d do the same these girls will all end the same, and never be thereafter she gets bored of being a hoe. NEVER let this person into your life. Remember there are Billions of other women to be with. If you feel It in your gut it's true. Attention whores are even worse, don’t be like the rest of the morons validating these worthless girls. Following them around, agreeing with every full retard statement she says. They don’t like you they like the attention. Dozens of men hit on these types because they are the easiest to [email protected] In most cases this is true. Girls like this always put themselves on display sometimes for attention. But most often looking for the right guy to hook up with. The photos are to show the guy she wants that she’s sexy. Those guys you rarely see liking their photos. And if she has a boyfriend or husband and still putting herself on display. RUN. Stay far away, shes a hoe. She’s posting these single ladies' photos for a reason. I know this because I went through a few like this. Girls with boyfriends looking for guys to have fun with. Even if it's only a few pics I’d still cut them off, I date the ones with very little to no social media presence. 5. Talent-less & worthless They have nothing going on for themselves but for their job. Take away their appearance, Instagram and other accounts what do they have to offer? Now for the attractive women; remove their accounts. what do they have going on for themselves? Nothing, absolutely nothing. It’s the sad truth that guys often forget. Why would anyone who has things going on for themselves be on social media all day? The girls working hourly jobs with no real plans for success are 9 out 10 times worthless. But on social media there mini-celebrities wannabe Instagram models. In there head they have so much going on for themselves. I applaud the ones who make a career from social media pics. At least they learned to apply it. For the rest, they often forget the fact they flip Krabby patties for a living. They forget they can barely afford rent, car payments, insurance, in debt, bill steady pilling. But they’re on social media daily, seeking any attention they can get. Their life revolves around swiping there card, painting there face for attention and a few moments of fame. These are the ones that are usually confused as to why they're still where they are in life 5, 10 years later. Never taking the time to explore their talents and perfect there skills if they have any. They're worthless, they’ll be there months, and years from now still posting photos; seeking any attention they can get. What's funny is that even though they have nothing going on. There’s never a shortage of low-value guys slipping in there DM’s, commenting, and liking their photos. These guys are even worse and I cut them off as well. I cut all that shit off there extremely unproductive in life.
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Figuring out who you are (book coming 2021) by kodoninja 1 year ago | Lifestyle |  (#yourself #lifestyle)
000 Figuring out who you are (book coming 2021)
The majority of the population today don’t even know themselves. I bet this sounds strange to you, if it does your probably one of these very people. It’s okay I was one myself; doing things society wants me to do. I was a collection of everyone and everything around me. What they liked I typically liked and this became a plethora of issues as I got older. I didn’t know or understand who I was. I put together a list of 5 things I’ve narrowed down to explain the main complications and causes that arise when you aren’t you. This isn’t to offend anyone but, these traits typically fall under females. They're more agreeable and malleable. They tend to keep the peace and follow the behavior and logic of there surroundings. If you were to look at there friends; 9 out of 10 times they are just like her. Or her desperately trying to be like them. All sharing the same thoughts, beliefs, opinions, and interests. A hive mind unwilling to share their thoughts and opinions. They may even need the opinion of there friends to make a simple decision. They may even dress, look, and act the same. If there are feminist around you, your more likely to be one; Or agree with the beliefs. If you really into fitness, as so are your friends. Into MMA, computers, swimming, and so on your friends are typically the same. Are trying to be the same. You may be unaware that these aren’t your interest. These became your interest because people around you were interested in these things. Males and females unsure of there purpose in life tend to cling to there surroundings; often molded by them. They may pick a career path chosen by their family, friends, emotions, or outside influences. Which may lead to changing there career, or major constantly. Maybe even graduating to end up at a job unrelated to their degree. All to find out later on in life this isn’t what they wanted to do, and settled. 1. You are the product of your environment. If your around gossiping hens, complainers, entitled, and ungrateful individuals; That are unwilling to think for themselves, then you’ll become just like them. Bad neighborhoods and persons who haven’t accomplished anything real in life. You often become like them. See the pattern? Put yourself around the greatest minds, influences, influential books/articles, entrepreneurs, dreamers, square pegs, and visionaries. You’ll become like them. 2. Your “friends” define you. You aren’t an individual, you're a member of a group of individuals that all share the same brain. You don’t decide what to do that weekend your friends do. Your friends are at the center of every decision you make or do. If your friends are party animals you are as well. They like what you like, you like what they like. You agree with whatever they do or say no questions asked. Anything from politics to going out to eat. 3. Your purpose is to fit in. Your life revolves around the opinion of others. You modify and adjust your life, feelings, emotions, beliefs, thoughts, and opinions accordingly to others. Why do you want to be liked by everyone? Why do you want to be another sheep? Just to fit in. Who cares what others think. Who cares about what they want. Stop trying to be like someone else, be yourself. 4. You just want to be apart of something. Most people don’t know who they are, lacking a true purpose in life. Thus they cling to the notion of being apart of something bigger. Having nothing of your own motivates that individual to join a group, club, or movement to feel special, and have meaning in life. You may want to create something of your own to be apart of. Being apart of someone else's goals, dreams, and philosophies will stop your ability to grow. 5. Your concerned about people you don’t know. What people think about you doesn't matter. Why should it matter to you? You are changing who you are just to fit in. To be in the good graces of those who otherwise wouldn’t like you. They only like you if you agree and side with them. Never understood the obsession with wanted to be liked by those you don’t know. Focus on your self. 9 times out of 10 those individuals cannot help you succeed and grow in life. You won't know who they are 5 years from now. Your friends should grow with you and accept you for who you are. The issue Don’t put up with anyone's indoctrination and nonsense. Nobody’s going to respect anyone who just goes along with what everyone does or says. You ever notice at your job your boss or even coworker often tells you what to do? They do this because it’s expected for you to do what you are told. As to that’s the ideology of life and a job. Be like everyone else, and don’t stand out. The ones that are the best sheep and follow directions the best; get rewarded or promoted. Those that don’t often stay in the same place lose their job. Society programs individuals to be like sheep, or else “bad things happen”. Not complying with their standards, get you corrected by threats or even by force. We go along with it. You're bosses don’t respect you. 99.9% of the time they don’t like are give a f$*k about you just like the “friends” you model your life behind. Yet you take orders and follow blindly behind them. You aren’t you, you are what others say you should be. Society loves to beat that into individuals. Misbehave, don’t comply; get corrected. From tv to the law and school system. Everything is created to mold good little people (sheep). IGNORE IT ALL, UNLEARN EVERYTHING. Spend time alone, the true you will come to be. You may finally see you don’t like what you doing. You only do it because others around you do it. It’s fun finding out how many things you don’t actually like, just by detaching. Society, the environment, and your friends are the reasons why you are who you are. My Story, Conclusion I am a product of my environment and past friendships. I can honestly admit that I am a collection of my surroundings and outside influences. Some things have become who I am. This is not always a bad thing. Growing up I came from an aggressive and toxic environment. And for a large portion of my life, I was one. Around a mother who whined and complained unable to sustain her own life; I became the same. Not knowing I was absorbing my surroundings. As I moved towards an academic orientated environment I became a product of that environment. I was surrounded by computers, fitness, entrepreneurship, and anime so I became further indulged. I met friends into fitness, MMA, weight lifting…, and I followed suit. Luckily I was able to think for myself and mold myself to my own will. I unknowingly rejected anything that didn’t feel right. I was punished greatly for not following along and behaving like everyone else. I had a tough time being a sheep. Didn’t want to go to school many times because they were trying to force me to be something unnatural. I just wanted to learn and not be conditioned. My mother hated me because I was difficult and couldn’t behave as society told her I should behave.  As I spent more time alone distancing myself from anyone, everyone, and everything. I found out who I was. Yes, I was a bad kid, but I was also very intelligent, filled with dreams, and refusing to conform to anyone. I lashed out on anyone trying to adjust me. I was bad because I was different, no one knew how to handle me, nothing worked. Thus they tried to punish, group, and label me. I figured out the harsh realities of what I was taught. Rejecting all the remaining feminine behavior that was forced onto me.  Being alone I understood who I was! A rebel; a very aggressive and outspoken lion that loves to take a risk, ruffle feathers, and walk my path. I was always problematic to those who tried to make me something else, even my “friends”. Thus I always had difficulty keeping and making friends. I understood my past mistakes, and who I truly wanted to be and not what society wanted me to be. The job and career environment doesn’t work for me. Too much freedom, personal success, and personal opinions Are what scares others. I wasn’t made to be told what to do, how to behave, and how to think. I was made to succeed. The point being is to figure out who you are. Use the steps I outlined and my personal story as motivation to find out who you are. Distance yourself from society and do what feels right to you. Who knows that 9-5 culture, gossip life, and mundane repetitive living may not be for you; just as I figured out. Take a real hard look at your life. Go through the motions, and see if that's your life, or the life an outside influence or environment created for you. Ask yourself: Who you are?  Who is destined to be? What are your goals in life? Are you accomplishing these goals? Is this your life? Is this the life your family wanted for you? Is this life your friends wanted for you? Are you truly happy? Are you fulfilled in life? Is that person your with who you want? Are you settling? Did your friends pick and approve of who your dating? Do you like your life? If you struggling with any of these questions your more than likely a drone. A product of someone else’s wants, beliefs, dreams, likes, and dislikes. You are no one, a sheep among billions. You don’t stand out. You are your friends, and you are a product of your environment. A useless nobody who can’t even think for themselves. Try being different. Try to go against the status quo. Be someone or something different, or just be you. Be the real you, and NOPE you have no idea who the real you are.  You agree with everything and anything told to you. You just BELIEVE without question, no facts no problem. If your friends are Liberal or vice versa then you blindly go with it, not knowing why. Possessed by emotions and someone else's narrative. Why do you even need to be political? Because society mandates it. Why do you need to work a job? Because society mandates it. Why do you need to get married? Because society mandates it. The list goes on and on. Afraid to be the real you, afraid to speak out, disagree.  No values, no purpose. Please find your purpose in life. Getaway as mentioned and figure everything out. You might be working a job anyone can do with a bit of time, training, and practice. Forgetting you have a degree in something like chemical engineering. A true passion. Something very few can do; something that takes a while to master and comprehend. You have that degree for a reason, right? You tried to find a job, was unsuccessful and now you working a bullshit management job, or even a job that doesn’t even require a degree. For what? Why just give up? Why did you even get that degree in the first place? Eons of questions, and eons of bullshit excuses and beyond responses as to why you are who you are in life... BOOK COMING 2021
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Is change & self-improvement all that bad? by kodoninja 2 months ago | SelfImprovement |  (#self-improvement #change)
000 Is change & self-improvement all that bad?
Why does modern society fear change so much? Today some are taught we are perfect just the way we are; That everyone should accept the way we are no matter what. Doesn’t matter how we look, our health condition, how competent we are, you name it we should just accept and reject any form of improvement whatsoever. So I revisit the question why does modern society fear change so much? To answer this question I’m unsure. If you ask anyone who has adopted this ideology they wouldn’t have a clear reason either, only bouts of fear, animosity, rage, and anger. Their resting response would be something along the lines of I’m perfect the way I am, stop trying to change me. If you believe your perfect the way you are. I believe this article may be uneasy for you to read. I’m just human and this is my opinion on the matter. Not meant to offend anyone, just to offer a different insight. If you humor me I think I can offer some insightful logic. In the earlier periods; humans who didn’t improve by learning to fight, hunt, swim, or survive died. Others couldn’t carry their weight for them they were left to die. Women would attach themselves to the strongest, fittest, and smartest. So they could survive, and make healthy strong offspring. There have been variations of this throughout millennia to today. Today our food is caught, hunted, prepared, and available to anyone via markets. We have local authorities, and militia to do most of our protecting for us. The government, family, and friends do our thinking for us. The government can also provide any finical assistance that’s needed. Free healthcare, free education, and libraries, everything is provided for adequate living. With everything provided to the modern person, why do we need to improve? Hell if your obese, weak, broke, bitter, spiteful, short, unattractive, unemployed, uneducated, unhealthy, cowardly, and so on. There are dozens of like-minded individual that will agree, follow, love, and be attracted to you. With all that said I can almost justify the logic for not needing to change or improve. After all, there’s someone always out there like you. Here are a few scenarios today that require a change to survive. You’ve become unhealthy in some shape or form Now you must adjust your eating or drinking habits. Or you may have to work out to get back to a healthy shape. You in need of more income for bills, food, etc. (handouts is not an option) You must get another job; with current skills Obtain new skills by going back to school, getting certifications, a trait, etc. Ironically these types depend on those that have embraced change. Those in the military protecting the country, had to change to become the greatest, and strongest to protect everyone. The first responders, police, doctors, veterinarians, farmers, engineers, and countless others all had to adopt change, improve and acquire new skills that others depend on. The handouts received by the government are all from those who work and pay taxes. They’ll also look up to celebrities who embraced changed to become that public figure. They’ll even vote for a president with the campaign of change. There are dozens of heroes throughout history that fought for their rights refusing to keep things the way they are  Change is a choice it's not a requirement. After all. I’ve given ample amounts of reasons as to why you shouldn’t change. Change is scary. Improving is almost like your going away from who you are. More importantly effort, perseverance, and skill frighten us all. We’ve gotten so used to being lazy clinging to who we believe we are. We reject change at all costs. The choices and decisions we make today define who we are tomorrow. You stop learning at college now getting that dream job requires you to constantly be improving. Bettering your skills and learning new content in your spare time. Not to mention they prefer the individual with the extended education. Those that actively peruse what's required as a hobby. Hiding out your years at a job anyone can do won't cut it. Success doesn’t fall out of the sky for the lazy and unmotivated. That dream guy or girl will forever remain a dream. Because anyone who has ever succeeded at anything doesn’t want a fat, lazy, slob who runs away from improvement. Success will likely never reach those who don’t want to improve. But regardless of what you do or how you feel. Hopefully, you don’t end up like those that hate and despise others that go 110% at the gym. As well as those who read 20+ books a month, write their books, and pursue higher educations. For people like myself I give it my all, I work very hard to have the body I have. Including creating apps, and platforms, for various other businesses. This list goes on. Don’t despise those that do everything in their power to become the greatest version of themselves. Or expect them to be your lifeline, they cant be successful for you. The safe space that’s keeping you from change is ultimately destroying you. It keeps you weak, poor dumb, compliant, and depending on others. Anyone who revokes change is destined to fade away becoming a distant shadow of those who became someone. No one ever remembers the people that didn’t try. They get left behind with all the other losses. It was your choice to run from opportunities; To pick apart the idea of self-improvement. Now the only persons that can relate to you are also those that’ll never accomplish anything. The takeaway, it’s not too late for change. Start slow if you do decide to. Try I minor improvement seeing how it feels. But put some effort into it don’t give up. Let me know how it goes, if a change isn’t for you you can always remain the same.
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8 Signs People Are Wasting Your Time by kodoninja 2 months ago | SelfImprovement |  (#time #people #friends)
000 8 Signs People Are Wasting Your Time
It almost seems like every person I come in contact with wastes my time. People who you think are your friends do not feel the same way. In most cases you can see the red flags, they’ll even tell you. “I don’t want to waste your time” Admitting their silly nature, preparing you for the upcoming bullshit. Run for the hills! In other cases they’ll hide it, cloaking their true nature and intentions. These are troubled, deranged individuals who lack purpose in life. They may even be someone close to you. In any case, let us travel through our 8 signs people are gonna wasting your time. They take, but never give The next person asking you for something, ask yourself. What have they done for me? Are they trying to get more out of a relationship than they put in? Have they even done anything for you? The majority of people are just trying to use you and waste your time. They’ll avoid any real interaction where they have to put in the same. They never had any intention of being equal with you. Here are a few noticeable circumstances and questions to consider. Do you always pay for food? Do you always pay in general? Are you doing most or all the work? They give excuses as to why they can’t do something. Are you always motivating them to be better? They ask for everything but give nothing. Are they always asking for favors? They rarely say thank you. They just expect you to go above and beyond for them. Are they always borrowing something of yours? Did any of this hit home for you, All of which does for me. Hell! I know people who display every one of these. Just drop them! Life is too short for this. They love to ask questions You're ever truly analyze a person's questions? Oddly enough, people will ask questions with absolutely no purpose or end goal. It could even be an opinion, statement, or rhetorical question. The question could be so absurd and foolish, but they shoot their shot anyway. It could also seem pure and meaningful. But if someone is there to constantly ask questions and never act on the advice or response. They are there to waste your time. I know you’ve been there and was like WTF. What was the point of that? Why on earth would him/her ask me that. I mean, they have Google on their phone. They know they can get the question anywhere else, but they choose to bother you. Sometimes it'll be repeated questions about what you're doing?, How you're doing, and so on. Your past, your future… Just purposeless questions to elicit a response. Many of which is a nice dig to you. A malice question geared to your goals or likes. Just empty nonsense. They always have excuses You have ever been around someone that always has excuses. They have reasons why they're poor. Reasons for why they don’t want to read, learn, lose weight, etc. They have a reason and excuse for every short cumming in their life. Not everything in life warrants an excuse. At some point in life, people will have to understand what’s going wrong and fix it. Ask a person to allocate time to do a productive task with you or for themselves. See if there’s an excuse. Try to get them to do anything outside their comfort zone. Excuses and many more will follow. They don't respect your time If a person can’t get their life in order, they’ll more than likely not respect your time. Time is so finite yet some spend it trying to get it to pass quickly. If they can see you heavily involved with something good, they’ll find some way to interject and keep you from that task. They have no shame in their actions. In rare cases, others will feel your time and life are so beneath them. They’ll spare some of their to waste yours. A boss at a job anyone can do is notorious for this. They’ll have you doing a stupid task (busy work) and asking purposeless questions. They distract you from your goals You come to notice the surrounding persons often have a hidden agenda. These types of people are foolish. Thus, they are just trying to harm you, keeping you from focusing on your goals. They can see that you're doing something good. Observe the person wasting your time. You will notice a few common traits. They’re always on their phone They feel envy or jealousy towards you Your success may piss them off They spend their time hiding from work They’re always wasting time. Furthermore, they don’t like change. “Complains of people trying to change them” They cling to a 9-5 They stopped learning They gossip seemingly all the time Consuming useless TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube… videos Watching pointless TV, and movies They love to watch sports days on end They love to play games Hanging out with friends, family, etc. Engage in useless conversations and activities Everything listed above is their life. And your activities and goals are outside their scope of understandings. They don’t get why you work so hard. Your focus and determination is an act of war when all they do is let their life fly by. Thus, it's an unrelenting task to bring you down to their level, to get you to relax, take it easy, and not try so hard. They lack purpose in life These are people with no direction whatsoever in life. They perhaps have had a dream in life, but, never really pursued it. However, you, compared to themselves. Are doing much better in life. They see you’ve had success and accomplishments in life. Thus, it forces them to take a harsh look at their lives. When they do, they can see that in comparison to you, they haven’t accomplished anything. They just don’t like you They may not realize it yet, but they don’t like you. Perhaps they may have believed at some point there were similarities between you two. But come to find out your very different. You may realize they're uneasy around you. They will walk up to you, smile, talk to you, but you’ll come to notice there just trying to waste your time. They’ll often throw petty insults at you to elicit a reaction. Everything about you pisses them off. They hate you to the core. When they come around you, you can see an uncontrollable rage building up. You can feel the malice in their tone, their breathing has increased. Their words, useless questions, and targeted statements are all poised to spite and move you off-center. If they know you like something, they go out of the way to insult it. They’ll even make it painfully obvious there out to get you. In a work environment, they’ll throw you under the bus at any choice they get. They can come up with trillions of complaints about you, to mask their intentions. You may even come to them with earnest intentions, trying to help them. Or just trying to see how things are going, life is treating them, etc. During the conversation, they’ll go out of their way to once again throw shade on you. They don’t care This one can be obvious, and it often won’t be. Many times you’ll be so passionate about your topic that you may overlook the signs that someone doesn't care what you're talking about. Let's say for instance learning how to day-trade. You have a friend that knows your day trade. So that person or yourself may bring it up. The conversation, tells them they can make a full-time living with this skill. So their interest peaked. They want to make money, they don’t necessarily like trading. So you tell them it’s simple you just got to learn the basics, learn some strategies, volume, trends, patterns, blue chips, penny stocks, and so on. They don’t care, they just want the money. You’ll give them links to YouTube videos, articles, free books, and mountains of content. It’s practically walking them through step by step on how to be good at day-trading. The next week or so, you ask how’s it going with it all, they haven’t started. A month later the same and so on. It’s not you, just that they don’t care. They can’t care. They’d like the reward that comes with persons that slave hours, days on end on the material. Ones that put up their own money, risking their earnings to replace their 9-5 and so on. Again, they don’t care. They’d rather spend their time doing the common traits I listed above. Even if you were to give them everything they need, walking them through everything in person. They don’t care, they just don’t understand it nor do they want to try it. They are just wasting your time, for their true purpose is a little more malice in nature. If they don’t put forth the work, and effort to try it on their own time. Don’t give them an ounce of your time, avoid them at all costs. Conclusion In conclusion, people come in many types in the world. By now, you’ll be able to spot out a time waster a mile away. If you come across them, just understand they are who they are. Don’t judge them or help them. They have no intention of changing their malicious motives. Just be aware of their nature, and how to spot it. BONUS If you’d like. You can take my approach. Keep them seemingly close, and observe their actions. If you know they don’t like you, give them more of you. If you know their goals or dreams, motivate them to pursue them. You may even loan them tools, equipment, a book, or two, links, referrals… Make their next step to their dream easy as pie. Invite them to your overproductive world. “Be their best friend”. Give them a taste of what true hard work looks like. Show them your accomplishments, tell them they can do it too. Be the best damn motivational speaker ever. Have the greatest of intentions for them. Let them believe they can use you. Give them every reason to believe you're a sucker, just some dumb-ass they can use to get ahead in life. Then watch their hate for you multiply, as they try extremely hard to hide it. Ignore their words entirely and focus on their actions. You’ll notice they are completely adjacent to one another. Reflect some kindness to their hate. But never lose focus of your goals… When you're done, get your stuff back in some kindly fashion. Be nice. Be smart about what you loan out in the first place. Let them know about who they are, call them out about what they're up to. Be radically blunt if you must. Then turn around and be the “sucker” again, lead them on. Continue to give them the impression that they are the ones leading you on. You’ll notice they’ll avoid you like the plague; when they realize you were on to them from the very beginning. They might even make it seem like you're the evil person to others close to you. They’ll deny it, trying to see if they can still milk you for more of your time, money, resources, etc. Not only that, but they’ll truly believe you're a sucker and will keep at it, despite you calling them out. If you're lucky. When you're being nice, it’ll confuse them, and they just run away from you. But a new day means they’ll try to get you again, oddly enough. These types make it a habit of life to agitate you, spite you, and bring you down. No matter how hard they hide it, you’ll hear bouts of anger and aggression to your every being. They can’t hold it in for that long. Your existence is an insult to who they are. They feel personally attacked by everything you do and say. They just can’t handle it. Furthermore, they aren’t productive, only lazy and bitter. Even your compliments get them angry. The petty insults will increase no matter what you do. Stay calm, stay focused on the bigger picture in life. Success, focus, and tranquility is the greatest weapon for them. Misery loves company. Any other person would truly love you and will precipitate that positive energy back towards you. They’ll go above and beyond for you as well. This was just a bit of a curiosity experiment; Just to show you how malice a time-waster can be. I find joy and toying with these deranged individuals. But give it a try with a co-worker you suspect. I guarantee you’ll never let an individual like that back in your space again. If possible, just avoid them, be selfish and have yourself in the best interest. These types can be dangerous if you're unable to spot them. Good luck.
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5 Reasons Why I Work Alone by kodoninja 2 months ago | SelfImprovement |  (#Self-Improvement #batman #alone)
000 5 Reasons Why I Work Alone
Like my childhood hero Batman, There are reasons why I generally work alone. You can’t deny he has an unrelenting determination towards his goals and beliefs. He may seem deranged the way he stays focused on crime-fighting. He puts in the effort to become the greatest martial artist, and detective the world has ever seen. Bruce has sacrificed his personal life, friends, and family. The only real friends he can have. Are ones just as crazy for the same beliefs? Alright, so my point in all this? I’ve become Batman! Well minus the whole billionaire playboy, cape crusader, crime-fighting, and detective thing.  It’s difficult to find my Selina Kyle or Barbara Gordon in this world of Millennials. So I work alone. It wasn’t until Batman was succeeding in his goals until the right help (friends) came into his life.  As I am right now, it’s harder to attract sidekicks to my entrepreneurial journey. So let’s get into the 5 reasons why I work alone 1. Priorities, priorities, priorities. People will not have your full attention, no matter how established you are. When you're aiming towards a goal, It is near impossible to find someone who will follow you. Someone who will allocate as much focus and determination as you do. Let’s face it, today people have dozens of priorities, and you aren’t one. For the average person, you may not realize it. But people have jobs they need to focus on. That job brings income for bills, family, and personal matters. That job can mean the world to them, regardless of the reason. There are family matters, friends, and their hobbies, and dreams they care more about. It’s selfish to bring someone onboard your pursuit. People have their own goals they’d like to accomplish. Granted, some are lacking direction in life. It’s still their life. If that life seems lackluster to you, it's a priority to them, they care more about it. Hell, today, a cellphone is the primary focus of one's life. If someone isn’t on their focus or purpose, that's not someone you'd want to work with. The trick is, they’ll find you, or you’ll seek them. Find a common goal. Jason Todd, Barbra Gordon, Damien Wayne all have a common goal that perfectly aligns with Bruce’s (Batman’s) vision. If you're a content creator with a similar vision, find the ones like you. The people walking alongside you should be a reflection of your dreams and goals. Find like-minded people along your journey. 2. Communication There’s nothing more important than having effective communication. All parties involved should be 100% in agreement in all decisions. If you make a decision, everyone agrees; then come crunch time. They’ll do something completely different from what was agreed on. They’ll say well that plan wouldn’t have worked, or this way is better for me. That’s a disaster, vent them and see the early signs before that happens. Hang out with the individuals, test them to see if they’re a good fit. Often Communicate with small projects and plans. If you can’t agree on smaller things and a smaller setting, they aren’t for you. If you agree on something. Then come to find out that person just doesn't get it. Or they don’t want to do it, just aren’t interested in you, your thoughts are what you're saying. Run for the hills! If they're also expressing concerns to others and not you. Move on. Life is too short for others to waste your time. If you do decide to address them to see what happens, and it persists, this isn’t a communication issue. It’s, and I don’t respect your time, or your dreams issue. These types of individuals aren’t worth the time and stress. Make sure there mutual respect and understanding. You have to respect each other's time, and agree that you respect each other's time. 3. Work Ethic A lot of people don’t bring anything to the table. They just want, what they can get from you. Don’t be the person doing all the work. The people you’re around you should reflect you entirely. The right people will gravitate to you and respect your work ethic. Be sure you have the same gravitational pull towards them. There should be no one trying to use or manipulate one another. Be vigilant of those that see you going places, and use that as an opportunity to tag along. You’ll be fooled by empty promises and lackluster work. They may be occasions where they may not know as much as you do. But they can assist in other areas. This is up to you. It can work, but I prefer the Batman approach. I like to have as much in common as possible. Aiming for the same dream at the same unrelenting rate. The ones that batman brings in his corner. He trusts completely. They don’t slow him down nor do they fall behind, chasing an adjacent dream leading him on. 4. Passion Imagine having a dream of becoming a big-time YouTuber. This dream, has tech reviews, day trading, investing, self-improvement, and so on. This is a very specific and complicated goal. Not too many people have this dream. Now imagine coming across another person following that same dream. Not just a talker saying there going to do it. But a person that's actively putting their work online. You two meet to share ideas, and eventually, start working and collaborating; for what is now a common goal. That’s the best-case scenario, finding a person who shares the same passion as you do. While following your dreams, you know have found the right people in your life. Have you ever tried to bring someone onboard your mission; Just to later find out they don’t care about helping you. They are more or so careful about what they can get from you during your journey. Their priorities are completely elsewhere, giving you half the attention, and a fraction of the work done. Well, this person just doesn’t have the same passion for your dream as you do. Regardless of how you may feel or what they care more about. It’s selfish to believe you can have someone give the same amount of effort and consideration as you do. I’m sure their goals aren’t film making, editing, fitness, trading, and so on. They're not going to give it much concern to learn how to edit professionally, help you film, and share ideas. Befriend others like you. Be with a dream girl or guy like you. Share the same passion. Become better at whatever that goal may be. In this scenario edit each other videos, motivate each other, give pointers, help each other film, share equipment, and so on. Just be sure you can trust them and make sure that person goes in 150% just as you do. 5. Trust There’s a lot of fake people in the world. Most of which are standing right beside you. So you need to be able to trust the ones you bring to your team. You need to trust that they can do the work Trust them to have your best interest in mind Trust them to pull their weight Trust that they can prioritize the common dream Trust that they can be dialed in and give it 150% The list can go on and on, so you need to thoroughly vent the person beforehand. I can’t tell you how many times companies and startups have invited the wrong kind of a person into their projects.  Conclusion I’m going to be a one-man army for quite some time. Furthermore, I’ve learned many skills over the years. And work extremely hard on improving what I’ve learned. Luckily what I need to be done in life I already know, and I’m very good at. There is no reason why I need someone with me. However, if I come across a Selina Kyle, or Barbra Gordan along the way. Then hell yeah, let’s work together! The benefit of this is that you can see their passion displayed through their content. You don’t have to waste time seeing whether they're serious. You two know what is needed and are both willing to make the sacrifices to get the job done. At some point, they can use me for my resources and I can use them for theirs. Mutualism. Until that time comes, I’ll remain a recluse and stick to my 5 reasons for working alone.
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